Is Fear Holding You Back From Living?

"Life and Fear" cartoon by David Hayward
“Life and Fear” cartoon by David Hayward


What’s the first thing I say when someone describes to me the changes in their beliefs and the fear they are feeling?

“Relax. Don’t be afraid.”

The fear and the beliefs are connected. They have a symbiotic relationship.

In fact, they are one!

I compare it to a terrified child with a monster under his bed. Once the child realizes the monster is not there, the fear is no longer there. The fear feeds the belief and the belief feeds the fear.

Many of you know what I’m talking about. But, like the child, when we imagine that monster again, we can taste the fear as well. Same with those beliefs: they can conjure up the accompanying fears.

I call this residue and a trigger.

So this is our task: It’s not to remove the fear, but to examine our beliefs and change our minds. Then the fear goes as well.

Simple as that!

Well, maybe not simple, but it’s not complicated. We know it takes courage to examine our beliefs and change our minds. But the reward is worth it: peace of mind.

Just remember: the fear and the belief are one.

Stop believing the scary thing and the scary thing goes.

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3 Replies to “Is Fear Holding You Back From Living?”

  1. To continue with this metaphor, please describe the key. I have inkling what you might suggest, but the lock/cage is so good, I thought the followup should talk about the (or at least ‘a’) key.

    Now that I am typing, “the key” vs “a key” is a pretty powerful discussion as well.

  2. I agree David, by being intellectually critical and examining beliefs to indeed discover if they consist of fear of the bogeyman that prevents you going into the wood or it is something that would be wise to be afraid of and cautious about with the reward being the peace of mind.

    Could I offer a caveat to what you say about fear with identifying that as irrational fear, perhaps leading for example toward prejudice, of unreasonable suspicion and hostility toward “the other” instead of enjoying the experience of connection for example? And perhaps say that at other times fear is our friend, in the instance of a bus coming out way enabling us to jump out of the way of it?

    And yes indeed courage being about facing fear – accepting difficulty, discomfort and even pain that accompanies this in manageable ways with truth setting free.

    I found the image you drew to be very powerful.

    I hope my comment is an encouragement to you.


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